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[secondscythe]

what's your relationship with your parent(s) if you got them?

do you wish they were here with you if they aren't?
or are you glad they're not?

and if you're a parent
at what point do you trust your kid enough to tell them things
even if those things are not so pretty and they've seen way more than they already should?

or do you think there's things they don't need to know
even if they just want to help you?

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[kanyounot]

I know nothing about where I came from before I was brought to the Jedi Temple as an infant. Never knew my parents.

I don't have any biological children, but I've had some experience dealing with teenagers. And as far as teenagers go, it's usually not a good idea to keep things from them. You want to protect them, it's your job to protect them, but that's not the same thing. In fact, in some cases it can make things more dangerous to keep them in the dark. You have to be honest and straightforward. Teenagers are almost adults, and sometimes they have to make their own mistakes.

[secondscythe]

sorry to hear that, yo.

that's what i think.
but parents or even adults in general
seem to do it anyway.
it's usually because they want to "protect them"
like you said.
but ain't it also hurtin them too?

[secondscythe]

[ Well. ]

you could probably just move?
instead of going that far i mean.

[governorkang]

Once they're old enough to start asking the questions. It can be difficult, but it's far better to be honest in the long run. Children can handle a lot more than many adults believe.

[secondscythe]

so you'd be honest with them
no matter how much it may suck in your mind?

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[restingstitchface]

Well, I think all parents fear trusting their children. When you see a father who can't trust his son, you bet he's afraid. Because, eventually in life, the son eclipses the father. It is the natural order of things. Thus they've an obsessive need to keep an eye on you whilst keeping you out of the loop.

You know, I understand how it feels, as a teenager, to believe you'll live forever; but fear is no good excuse for treating your offspring like an imbecile, honestly.

[secondscythe]

[ Oh... just the person he was looking for. Always so funny how the universe works. ]

so that's the reason for keepin things from them?
cause they're scared they might do the same things they did?
shouldn't you want to warn them instead?
educate them?
want them to not do that?

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[fingerchewing]

I was always closer with my dad.

I inherited an illness from my mom, and only just found out before I was brought here. If she came here, I would probably scream at her for not telling me.

But I miss them.

[secondscythe]

sorry to hear that.
why didn't she tell you about that?
was it some reason for tryin to
protect you or somethin?
seems like the usual answer.

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[pale_blue_arrow]

my parents are both lawyers. they worked so much i rarely saw them. they'd leave money on the counter for expenses i needed paid and they would try to talk to me if something was wrong at school. they were around more when i was younger and needed more supervision, but after that they drifted away.

i wish my mother were here to get the mental health care she needs. and since i died back home before i could say goodbye to them, i guess on some level i'd like them to be here so i could explain things, but that's not going to happen.

[secondscythe]

you died?
that sucks.
even though they were never around
you still miss them and don't feel
like they ditched you?

[dejerate]

considering what my parents did?
No. I don't want them here.

Besides. Pretty sure they died. Not that that matters with the Porter bringing in people from whatever time but still. I can't talk on the parent side of things but. Some things I wish I heard from Guren himself rather than hearing about it from others. I mean, he's not actually my parent but. He took me in.

[secondscythe]

what did they do?
are you mad that guren guy wasn't upfront with things to you?
because he probably wanted you to be upfront, right?

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[fehus]

i just met my dad for the first time like last year. it was weird and i don't know how to do like the dad thing. he doesn't either. i dunno what i'd do if he showed up.

be weird, probably? based on previous evidence.

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i don't think secrecy between parents and kids is black and white. sometimes you need lies growing up. sometimes you need truth.

[secondscythe]

so we gotta tell them the truth
but they ain't gotta tell us the truth?

[continuousgroaning]

I've always had a good relationship with my parents. my whole family is close.

neither of them are here and I miss them a lot :(

[secondscythe]

they ain't ever come in?
you haven't been here for a real long time have you?

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[magneticxman]

My relationship is complicated. It's mostly negative, but now that I've met the version of my father here I don't know what to think about him.

I don't really have a relationship with my mother, she died when I was young.

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[secondscythe]

sorry about your mom.
is your pops a different version from the one you normally know?

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[looseleaves]

I love my parents!
Since we're kind of poor, I don't get to see them that often... usually just during the nights or sometimes weekends.
I'm usually responsible for my little sister and brother.
I love it when my Mama and Papa, and my siblings, are all together and we can have dinner together. It's rarer now, at home...
But I feel blessed to be their child.

I don't think I'd like it if they were here... I'd worry a lot. Mm, maybe it'd be different if they also had powers? Ah, I can see my Mama being super strong.

I'm not a parent so maybe I shouldn't answer this, but...
My parents started talking about things that weren't so pretty a few years ago. I'm really grateful... I was able to start thinking of what kind of person I wanted to be because they were honest with me.
An ugly truth is better than a beautiful lie, I think.

[secondscythe]

[ Hoo boy. ]

see my thing is
trust is a two-way street, ain't it?
they want us to be honest with them and all that
but they wanna keep things from us even if they think
it's "for the best" or whatever.
ain't that bein a hypocrite?

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[knaval]

your parent is still shitty huh

[secondscythe]

ain't like i really got one.

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[versusseeker]

i <3 my mom

[And he misses her. So painfully that it's almost hard to talk about - or maybe that's just the guilt from leaving her again with no notice.]

she wudnt lyk it here
+ its dangerous
but i still miss her

[secondscythe]

guess the same can't be said for your dad?

[fuckalligators]

so u a parent or a kid proving a point

or just doing a survey for funsies

[secondscythe]

that depends what you are.

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[beautiful_monster]

Pretty sure my family would rather be here with me if I have to be stuck here. I don't know if that answers your question or not...but it's easier then deciding if I WANT them here or not.

Do you have family here??

[secondscythe]

it works.
i've been on my own since i was a kid.
it's always just been me.

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[functusofficio]

I loved my parents a great deal.

And I never had the chance to raise my children, but I do think children must be aware of the reality of the world around them.

I do think it should be done carefully.

[secondscythe]

you don't have to explain or anythin
but do you get the chance to raise them here?

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[accipresident]

[HOO BOY this hits way too close to home.]

If I could tell my kid things
I mean
I think there's no use in hiding that not so pretty things exist
Honesty seems like the best policy

[secondscythe]

so you're a parent then?
is your kid here with you?

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[eloquentness]

I was really close to my dad, yeah. I didn't get to know Mom much before she died.

[ . . but that's a story for another time, she thinks. ]

It's a double-edged sword. I want Dad here because I miss him, but I also don't because this world isn't safe. Better that he's home, imo.

[secondscythe]

sorry to hear that.
yeah i miss someonee from home sometimes
but i don't know if i'd want her here
since shit sucks a lot of the time, you know?

[tropism]

Let's just say that if you were to ask which child is my father's favourite, he'd probably say it's the Barolo. He'd do very badly here.

[ the hilarious thing is that it works for both his fathers, issues of legacy and bloodline and canon bullshittery involving certain events in a sunken ship in the atlantic aside. ]

[secondscythe]

i'm guessin that's not you?

[am_i_a_monster]

My parents are dead. My relationship with them was hard to explain.

I wish my mother could be here. She deserves a second chance at life more than me and I love her.

As hard as it is to say, things are better if my dad stays dead and isn't portered here.

[secondscythe]

sorry to hear that.
not that you got to say anythin
but hopefully it's better here for you.