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i'm taking a poll.

if you could choose between the following gifts, which would you choose?

1. a really nice bouquet of your favorite flowers;
2. a really nice bouquet of supernaturally created flowers that are customized for you;
3. a selection of books that are meaningful to your s.o. with personal inscriptions inside;
4. a trip somewhere for a weekend getaway;
5. a home-cooked meal that may or may not be entirely edible (but will be full of effort and love);
6. a photo album with some photos from your time together with room for more;
7. homemade chocolate (see #5);
8. some combination of the above.

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3 for sure. You get real insight into people based on their reading materials, and the inscriptions indicate thoughtfulness.

i feel like that could be a can of worms, right? like, what if your s.o.'s favorite book is something ..... unsettling. or disturbing.

I mean, if they're into something that you don't approve of or disturbs you, do you want them to remain significant?

Buying flowers instead of books isn't going to change anything about them.

you make an excellent point. it's probably best to weed them out as early as possible.

what about flowers AND books?

More probably can't hurt.

You might run the minor risk of it being TOO MUCH, which can sometimes freak people out, but... Most people like being doted on, right?

yeah, i mean ... i don't wanna do ALL of the things on the list. that's ... definitely going overboard and skipping right into creepy territory. but i feel like maybe one or two things on the list might be good, depending on what things, you know?

and i think most people like the effort, at least. she's definitely the type of person who'd appreciate it instead of getting freaked out about it. i think.

probably a trip, but it depends on where. preferably far away from people.

though home-cooked meal can never go wrong.

far away from people but not too far that you can't get to help if it's needed. and a place mutually decided upon between the two people? or is a surprise getaway better?

both? i mean if you know them well enough I'd say surprise getaway. i wouldn't mind a vacation getaway if it meant just having time to spend with him.

or, i guess, it could help you learn more about the other person. hmm. maybe i should start dropping hints at little things, see what sticks.

that could work. i'm sure if they are interested in you that you can't really go too wrong?

is it a new relationship?

yeah, pretty new .. we've been dating since october, so like, four months?

I don't have any favorites from this world yet but I would go with the first option

[ Han did so well with the first bouquet he ever got her. ]

okay, so that's a vote for a bouquet. you don't think that's too like .... impersonal? or an easy way out?

No? Are they expecting you to give them the world on a silver platter? They should be grateful they received a bouquet of flowers when you could've given them nothing at all.

........ okay. that's not the answer i was expecting, but i get where you're coming from. a gift is a gift, right?

4 3 2 6 5 7 1 in that order.

got it. you hate impersonal bouquets of flowers.

nah, man. that's .. actually really similar to how i was stacking 'em up against each other. the trip is a nice idea, i think.

Hate them?? Not at all! But they're so BORING compared to all the other options! If someone took me to see someplace new I'd be over the moon!

I don't have a lot of experience with being given gifts myself, but looking at this...

[. . .]

Flowers would be nice enough. But that whole list sounds as though you're going above and beyond.
The effort made in an attempt to do something meaningful could be moving enough.

Attempting to court someone?

ahhh ... i ... have .. already courted them? i think? if i understand the use of the word "courted" as a verb? like, we're already dating and stuff. but i'm trying to think of what to do for her for valentine's day (which is far away, i know, but i can be a little type a sometimes, and this is an example of that).

i mean, i don't plan on doing ALL of these things, but maybe a couple or a few.

What is Valentine's Day?

oh, it's a holiday that's in february to celebrate couples, relationships, love, etc. it can be for friends, too, but it's generally for romantic relationships.

it's sorta been capitalized and commercialized now, though, so it's kinda crappy. everything is over-priced and some people use it as an excuse to do one semi-nice thing and not have to worry about it the rest of the time.

i have mixed feelings about it, but i'm also a sap, so i kinda can't help it.

While I don't entirely understand why a day was chosen to commemorate the act of decency, I can appreciate the concept.

I would just think that doing so would cause others to assume otherwise it is not acceptable to be outwardly affectionate.

[Kei, that's the point he was trying to make.]

What is a 'sap'? I find it's rather endearing that you still try despite the negative attention.

I'd definitively prefer the third. I'm a bookworm myself, after all.

heh, yes! you're the reason that suggestion is on the list. my issue is that i don't remember all the names of the books i liked. i mean, i read some in high school and college, but i was unfortunately not a huge reader. kinda wish i had been, though.

Is that so? I'm glad. I think if you mention the basic plot, most libraries would easily tell you the name of the book. Or google.

9. None of the above.

[ truthfully, elektra would choose a weapon. moving on ... ]

If you need to ask strangers on the network what gives out of a selection you've found to get gift to someone who supposedly means so much to you, you've been thinking of the wrong gifts to give.

brutal honesty, but i appreciate it.

you make a good point. it's more that the relationship is new, and i have an idea of what sort of thing she would like, but i also don't want to pick something that's "too much," if that makes sense.

What is "too much", by your definition? Give me one of your examples. You seem filled with them.

[ IT'S A JOKE. learn to emote, elektra. ]

3, 5, 6 or 7 are the best options. They're the most personal and show the most genuine effort, and that counts for a lot. That's basically how my Mamãe was won over by my Papai. Expensive things just made her feel like he was trying to buy her love, which... I think you should avoid? I mean I know things are different here but still.

right, that's how i generally feel about just ... buying stuff. which is why i don't want to do that. just buy a piece of jewelry and think that's it.

Edited 2018-01-21 16:53 (UTC)

Jewelry can work if it's somehow personal. Like, when my friend Inacio decided to actually do something about his crush on our friend Ahamba, he made her some necklaces with beads and things he'd bought himself. She collects them, so for her, getting unique, handmade ones was the best gift she could imagine.

So whatever the person you love is into, you should find something related to that. Something they collect, or something they've talked about, and go with that. There's something really special about knowing somebody made something just for you, which makes for it not being the best. Everybody wants to feel like somebody thought about them or cares.

It'll work out. The fact that you asked the network shows you care a lot and that you're really trying, so I believe in you.

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