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[girlybruiser]

[ It's around midnight when this gets posted to the Network. While that isn't late for most imPorts, it's quite late for Haru herself. ]

Father's Day is soon. It might be a bit of a ridiculous thought, but I wonder how many of us really reflect on our relationships with our fathers during this time.
To be completely honest, it didn't occur to me how much I would be thinking about it myself. It feels rather silly, but... at the same time I am sure many of us have complex relationships with them.
Mine has long passed, although I can't help but think about all the things left unsaid and undone. He hurt and used people for personal gain, but toward the end he was going to try and make amends for the things he did.
I feel I should be mourning him in spite of everything, though it has been so long I do not even know where to begin.
... I am sorry, does that make sense?


( ooc: haru is no tech expert, so for those who would know how if they want to uncover who anon is, please just ask first. for those who would know/figure out it's haru, feel free to have them ask. )

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[ Text ] [ Anonymous]

[motorcycle_noises]

Mine isn't dead, but I'll never see him again.
I spent years resenting him for a lot of things.
Turns out he'd been framed for some bad stuff.
.....I wish I could see him one more time.

ditto

[girlybruiser]

So he is currently serving time in prison for something he did not commit?

[ Too similar to what Akira went through. ]

How unjust.

[ Text ] [ Anonymous ]

[autorejoin]

Mine's dead.
Didn't go to his funeral.
Probably for the best! He wouldn't have wanted me there, anyway.

[girlybruiser]

[ This response takes her a while to get to. ]

For what it is worth, my condolences.
I presume neither of you were close?

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[liontomyself]

I had no idea there was such a holiday.

My father has also passed. He committed atrocities, but it wasn't his fault... That said, he was never the most warm of people.

I haven't really had time to think on how I feel about it. Between my coronation, ending the war, and then ending up here, it has all been far too hectic.

[Leo doesn't bother with anonymous, he's open about what happened with his father.]

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[girlybruiser]

I believe it is celebrated a bit differently in America? I am not quite sure.

[ Yeah, she's going to fail eventually at this anon stuff. ]

What did he
Pardon?

[ Coronation? ]

A royal coronation, you mean?

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[dearmajor]

Perhaps you could write a letter to him?
I do not remember my own parents, so I cannot relate to your feelings in particular, but sometimes it is easier to sort out what to think if you put those thoughts down on paper.

( anon | text )

[girlybruiser]

A letter does seem like a good idea. Thank you for the suggestion.
I am sorry to hear that you don't remember your parents, however. I can't imagine how difficult that must be to carry.

[ Text ] [ not anon ]

[axeboyfriend]

Wherever you start's probably good.
There's no wrong way to mourn.

anon + text forever

[girlybruiser]

Can you be so certain?
He is still my father... was. I suppose I must pay my respect in some manner.

[Text]

[battysitter]

My father is a grade A asshole, but I wouldn't want him dead.

If you want to forgive yours and mourn him, do it any way you want. Don't think there is a right or wrong way.

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[girlybruiser]

That is... quite a strong word!
But I suppose if have a very complex relationship with him...
It feels a little strange to be doing it in a place that isn't home either, though there isn't anything that can be done about that.

[fauxmarth]

[so many anons wow. NOT THIS GIRL.]

There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of my own father. It actually took me by surprise to discover there are such holidays devoted to each parent in turn. I rather like it. It's bittersweet, but important to remember those who bore and raised us.
Yet I can't claim such a complicated relationship as yours. It must be terribly conflicting. As an outsider, I would say it's honorable of him to have made efforts to atone for past sins -- it's more than many would think to do, as so often some get so set in their ways as to feel their fates inescapable.
To grieve is no cut and dry process, I've found. It takes many forms, and one cannot simply find the clear answer in a book...or on a network. Such things creep upon you as they will it. As your heart wills it.

anon + text forever

[girlybruiser]

[ MANY ANONS. ]

I agree about the holidays. I think it's great we have something to honor our relatives and loved ones.
Yes, well... I cannot say his hand was not forced at some point to atone, but I know he felt conflicted enough. He could try to hide it, but...

[ Well, it became more and more evident. ]

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[eloquentness]

[ Not even gonna be anon here, either, since this seems too important. ]

Makes sense to me. Not everyone has a great relationship with their father, and not everyone should feel forced to take part.

I miss my dad every day, tbh, and he's still alive. Just back home.
I write letters and take pictures, kind of like a digital scrapbook, just to show what's going on and how I've changed since I was ported in.
Maybe you could try something like that?

anon + text

[girlybruiser]

A digital scrapbook is such a clever idea. I saw someone talking about letters, but perhaps photographs might be helpful, too!

text; anonymous

[myownprice]

[Boba should be asleep, but unsurprisingly, it’s hard to drift off in a strange house full of strange people on a strange world. Exhausted as he is, he ends up scrolling idly through the posts on his communicator, trying to ease his paranoia.

When he comes across this post, he stops scrolling and lingers, reading and re-reading it a couple of times before looking through the other responses. Maybe it’s the fatigue. Maybe it’s the isolation. Whatever the reason, Boba finds himself typing out his own reply, though he’s at least mindful enough to make it anonymous.]

My dad was killed two years ago.
He left me a book, but I didn’t have it when I came here.

[To call it a book is a little dishonest. It had been a holo-projector disguised as a book. It was better that way; it meant Boba could see his father’s face and hear his voice whenever he wanted. It’s with a pang that Boba realizes that he doesn’t have that convenience any more.]

I wish I had it back.

[girlybruiser]

[ Her heart goes out reading this. ]

I am so sorry to hear.
What was the book?

[youresovein]

[ he doesn't bother with anonymity. ]

Do you want to mourn him, or do you feel obligated?

[girlybruiser]

I am not entirely sure, to be honest.
I... do miss him.

[Text] [It's Eikichi Mishina he doesn't even know there's an anon button]

[deathboss]

Yeah it makes sense...sorry I can't help you with that.

My pop's still around and wanted me to take over his work and kept threatening me over it...I resented him a lot. I think in the end he just wanted me to have a steady job? Like I want to be a musician and I get he might be afraid I'm not doing a normal path and breaking up family tradition.

But he taught me some good skills...

I think I'll draw a portrait of him tonight. Best I can do in this world.

anon + text

[girlybruiser]

Please don't be. I understand it's not an easy solve.
Although I believe every person should have the freedom to choose their path, I think I can understand your father wanting the best for you. Sometimes, they do not always show it that way, do they?

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[shutterbugged]

Makes perfect sense to me. Your relationship was messy when he was alive, stands to reason it'd still be messy afterwards.

My dad and I had a good relationship, but I'm the one who screwed things up before he died. Way different situation from yours, but I get the feeling of things undone. You learn to live with it, eventually. It just becomes a part of you.

Not that it's any of my business, but there are no "shoulds" when it comes to grieving. If that's not where your relationship was at, it doesn't reflect less on you as a person.

anon + text

[girlybruiser]

I appreciate that. Thank you.
If I can be honest, there was not much time to mourn once he passed. There was much to do and I never had the chance. I got swept up in so many other things that called my attention.
I'm sorry to hear about your father, by the way. May I inquire?

private; not anon!

[lempereur]

Is that you, Okumara-san?

private + anon 1/3??

[girlybruiser]

As in Haru Okumura? My apologies you must be mistaken.

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[thirdstrike]

my dads done stuff like that all his life tbh
i didnt use to rly notice it but after a wile it starts to get more obvius
whenever he sed things wud be diffrent he always changed back sooner or later
if he died id probly miss him but idk if id rly be that sad
is that what its like 4 u?

anon + text

[girlybruiser]

[ It takes her a minute to comprehend some of the misspellings. ]

I do feel sad, but it's a strange sort of sadness. If sadness can feel like that in the first place?
I am sorry, I am not sure I'm making sense.

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[khajidont]

In my experience? People do a lot of thinking on days like these.

I'm sorry about your dad. But I don't think anyone's obligated to mourn someone they don't.

anon + text

[girlybruiser]

Thank you.
I do miss him, it's... it's simply strange.

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[fridgeflower]

It makes sense.

I never met my father, and he wasn't a good person. If he ever tried to be better, I wouldn't know it. I understand that hope, though, and the potential sense of loss that comes from what could have been.

I'm sorry he passed before he could change. If he intended to... That counts for something. You aren't silly for having something to think over.

anon + text

[girlybruiser]

Thank you for your condolences.
May I ask how you knew your father wasn't a good person if you have never met him?

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[am_i_a_monster]

Makes sense to me.
My dad did terrible things, but he was a good father once.
I mourn him, I loved him and I hate him. Sometimes all at once.

anon + text

[girlybruiser]

Can truly you love and hate someone at the same time?

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[aboveand]

My dad died too.

Someone killed him to keep him from talking about something bad he'd learned.

I spent the last conversation I ever had with him arguing because I was being a brat kid.

anon + text

[girlybruiser]

[ This also gets a delayed response, the shock taking a while for her to get over. Even Terry? ]

Such a horrid thing... I am very sorry for your loss.
I'm sure whatever heated argument you were both in that he knew it was not a reflection of your own character.

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[fource]

I'm sorry to hear about your father. Unfortunately it looks like there are a lot of people here who have experienced something similar.

anon + text

[girlybruiser]

It seems that way. On one hand it is a bit nice that I am not alone in this feeling, but to think so many have been hurt by a trusted parent is alarming.

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[izanyagi]

Sometimes it's good to cry...both for the good and bad.

My parents don't see me often, but I have an uncle who is almost like a second father to me.

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[girlybruiser]

[ It takes her some time to form a response. Deliberating whether she should be honest, but when she remembers she's under the guise of anonymous... ]

The tears will not come right now.
Does your uncle take care of you then? That sounds nice.