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[redigere]

The first person I'd ask for help about problems among friends is gone now...so I'd like to ask for help here instead.

What should I do about a friend who keeps pushing me away because he thinks I don't care about him anymore? Every time I talked with him it seemed like he misunderstood more and more of my feelings...to the point that he left home in anger. I don't know what to do or say anymore. I'm afraid I'll make things worse.

Kagami, if you're reading this, just come home. Please. We should talk this over.





And...does anyone know of some self-defense trainers? I meant to ask last month, but the black out happened before I could. I'd like to learn more. I need the distraction.

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[dancermai]

[ So the last time somebody thought they were losing this girl ended up kidnapping her and delivering her to her doom so.. ]

Was there anything special that you two used to do together that you can do now to show that you still care? I'm sure there's a way to help your feelings reach him!

...oh and I'm not good with the fighting but I can teach you how to dance?

[redigere]

I don't know if it counts as something special but we used to do a lot of the shopping together.

[Otherwise he would avoid her like the plague and that's apparently her fault too.]

Dancing? What kind of dancing?

[ididntsaybanana]

[ well kaito can never ignore someone who wants to get better at things ]

I can help you learn some self defense.

[redigere]

Thank you very much. I've been taking lessons with another friend but I think learning a lot of different kinds will help me get used to it. What kind do you know?

[monge]

he sounds more like a bully than a friend
i would cry if my friends acted like that

[Not that making him cry is very hard... He's probably crying right now.]

[redigere]

[Calling Kagami a bully seems a bit much to her, but she also remembers many occasions of his explosive behavior, directed at her and others, and just...can't find it in her to prod that landmine.]

Please don't cry Komasan. Otherwise I might cry too.

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[ghoulking]

I know self-defense but before that-

do you want to talk about it better? The first part I mean. [ because giving advice based on vague points isn't... well, sometimes it could go wrong. And Kagami isn't the easiest person, either ]

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[redigere]

Well...

The short version is that he thinks Riku and I are dating, and one of the reasons he left home was because he doesn't want to be in the way.

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[voicelessresistance]

Sometimes you just need to allow people to calm down before you try again.
If you're having trouble when you speak in person, you could also consider writing down what you want to say.

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[redigere]

That might be better. I'm not very good with words, I think.

[slightlyoffchilt]

Seeking help where he can see it might worsen the situation.

[redigere]

It might. And I admit I'm very afraid of that. But he won't listen to me, and he won't listen to his brother, so I was hoping he might listen to everyone else.

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[oceanthief]

If someone doesn't want to listen to what you're actually saying, there's nothing you can do about it. People who only hear what they want don't change.

[redigere]

[She was expecting this kind of statement but it still makes her wince.]

I don't want to give up on him, though.

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[sleight_of_hand]

Your friend sounds like a real winner.

[ No, Namine is not immune to his sarcasm, no matter how cute she is. ]

Really, it's probably best to leave him sulk. Eventually he'll get his own head on straight, or someone will force him to straighten it the hard way.

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[redigere]

[Honestly she's too upset to even notice.]

I don't want him to be alone, though. He's upset and making this post might upset him more but I didn't know how else to try and get him to listen.

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[renamaer]

[Oh no is that...? Well, maybe it was still better for her not to pry too much.]

I think if your friend isn't willing to understand or actually listen to your explanations instead of his own thoughts, it's very hard to be able to help until he's willing to at least meet you halfway.

Keep doing what I'm sure you've already been doing, showing your care for him as a friend.

If he cares about your friendship even half as much as you clearly do, he should come around eventually.

[She'll be keeping an eye out for him though.

Oh and...]

Ahh...what's the difference between self-defense and other kinds of fighting, exactly? [Technically, she'd picked up fighting solely for the purpose of self-defense but...she'd gotten pretty distracted.]

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[redigere]

I know he cares, I'm just afraid he cares so much that he's going to keep staying away, thinking that it's better for me.

I always thought self-defense was more to protect yourself rather than fighting to overcome someone else. Though I've been told it's sometimes the same thing.

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[23wishes]

kagami tries, but from what i've seen, it's a lot of talk. if people want to change, they need to put in the work to do it.

do you feel respected with him?

safe?

cared for?

do you feel like his equal?

sometimes guys don't always treat girls well. sometimes guys are just hurtful. and those aren't guys you want to be around.

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[redigere]

I feel

I feel like he cares about me deeply. But...caring about someone and caring for someone are two different things, aren't they.

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[thirdprogenitor]

I'm curious. Were you hoping to get others to dogpile on him with naming him like this for all to see?

[redigere]

I was hoping his other friends would be able to help me.

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[resipiscent]

[Riku's not gonna text her when her bedroom's right there by his.]

... How're you doing?

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[redigere]

[She's staring down at her lap, her communicator held loosely in her hands.]

Worse, honestly. I shouldn't have made the post.

[But she'd wanted to fix things and fix them immediately and she'd been at her rope's end thinking about how to do it by herself. Thus this mess.]

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[drizzle]

Who was the first person you would ask for advice on friends?

[Before she gets to everything else.]

[redigere]

Sora

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[glowsferatu]

at this point i dont think that hearing it again from you will help if it hasnt registered yet
sometimes people are just a bit daft and need to work it out on their own
from what ive been able to tell hes going through a lot
aversion or distrust of anything positive can be unfortunately common in cases like that

[redigere]

Going through a lot? Does that mean everything that's happening at home? Or was it something else?

No, never mind, I should hear it from him.

What can I do to gain his trust again?

[dachizone]

[Don't worry! The friendship expert is here to help!]

Sometimes, our friends do what they think is best for themselves and, sometimes, that's not what you think is best for them. And because you don't think the other person's way is the right way, you don't understand each other. But you just gotta show him that you're his friend no matter what!

[redigere]

But how? If he doesn't listen, then what can I do to show him I still care about him?