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The first person I'd ask for help about problems among friends is gone now...so I'd like to ask for help here instead.

What should I do about a friend who keeps pushing me away because he thinks I don't care about him anymore? Every time I talked with him it seemed like he misunderstood more and more of my feelings...to the point that he left home in anger. I don't know what to do or say anymore. I'm afraid I'll make things worse.

Kagami, if you're reading this, just come home. Please. We should talk this over.

And...does anyone know of some self-defense trainers? I meant to ask last month, but the black out happened before I could. I'd like to learn more. I need the distraction.

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If you don't mind me asking, what is it you are hoping to tell him?
Talking it out first may help.

I want to tell him I'm not trying to push him away like he thinks I am. And that if I'm doing it unintentionally, then I want to try and fix it, but I don't want him to leave while I'm trying.

Have you done something you believe would make him feel that way?
Or is he just assuming it?

Because sometimes people don't really know how to have someone else care about them.

I don't think I have but. It's hard to understand what he's thinking sometimes.

I'm starting to think he might be that kind of person.

As much as we'd all love to, we can't ever really know what someone else is thinking. We can only hope we understand them enough to guess.

In that case, you just have to be patient. If it's what you want, be there for him, even when he's like this.

But make sure it's what you want.

Everyone has been saying that. About if it's what I want or not.

I do want to stay friends with him. But I wonder I'm even the right person to try and pull him out of his thoughts.

[There's a delay before Red responds this time.]

I think that is the probably the wrong question, Naminé.
You are thinking of terms of what is right for him.

[Her answer also takes a moment to get to Red.]

I thought that was part of it, though. How should I think of it instead?

Edited 2017-02-27 01:45 (UTC)

You should think about this in terms of what you need, and what you want, an what life can still be for you.

Take a step back, or try, and look at this situation as if you were someone else.

You are young and intelligent and beautiful and probably far too nice for your own good, Naminé.

If you saw someone like that, like you, struggling to help a person who was doing everything they could to not let them help. Trying to help someone who was leaving them lonely and despondent and desperate...

What would you tell them to do?

I would

I would tell them to find someone who could maybe help. And if that didn't work, then I would tell them to spend time with other people to help them feel better.

That's good advice. You should listen to you.

Though I think the second part is a good idea regardless of whether or not the first is possible.

You've made other friends since you arrived, yes?