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[redigere]

The first person I'd ask for help about problems among friends is gone now...so I'd like to ask for help here instead.

What should I do about a friend who keeps pushing me away because he thinks I don't care about him anymore? Every time I talked with him it seemed like he misunderstood more and more of my feelings...to the point that he left home in anger. I don't know what to do or say anymore. I'm afraid I'll make things worse.

Kagami, if you're reading this, just come home. Please. We should talk this over.





And...does anyone know of some self-defense trainers? I meant to ask last month, but the black out happened before I could. I'd like to learn more. I need the distraction.

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[sleight_of_hand]

It's... never really easy to give someone hurting space.

[ Adachi paused a moment, letting out a breath. Geeze, what was this place and making him be the responsible and knowledgeable adult? ]

You care about this kid, right? And he cares about you, enough to get the wrong idea and be pissy about it. But if you keep pushing how you care for him, his misinterpretation of it is all he's going to see.

[monge]

i dont think you need to try to do anything
there is not a lot to do

if anyone should try it should be him
try to be a better friend

[dancermai]

Shopping can be a special thing depending on who you go with and the kinds of things you buy. Maybe you can buy something cute that reminds your friend of the time you used to spend together.

[ She's very hopeful that there is definitely a solution to all of this. ]

I do a lot of street dancing mostly. They've put together a little out door stage for me and we can use that to practice if you'd like.

[dachizone]

Well, since I don't know who it is, I don't really know the situation but. There are times when people don't want to listen but instead be listened to. And if you're telling him that what he is saying is wrong and he's misunderstanding when you talk to him, maybe it sounds to him like you're not listening to his feelings.

[slightlyoffchilt]

Do you think it might be best to set up a meeting between the three of you, then?

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[resipiscent]

[Riku isn't really certain what to say to that. He doesn't agree that any of this is her responsibility, and he hates that she feels like it is. It's true that it'll take time for Kagami to figure this out for himself. But... it still hurts, not being able to do anything at the moment.]

I don't think... there's anything you could do. There's certainly nothing I can do, either. For now, I think we just... go about life like normal. Or as close to it as we can get.

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[renamaer]

[Oddly enough, their topics of conversation are not unrelated, so Estelle's thoughts are going to wander a bit for now, but she'll get back to it.]

Are you worried that something will happen to him? Or that he'll do something to himself?

[Because again, she's gone through that herself, however involuntarily, and Naminé would know Kagami's mood better...]

[redigere]

Maybe...thank you for the advice.

[Naminé will try to be hopeful as well but it's kind of hard to. Especially when they only did grocery shopping together.]

How is street dancing different than normal dancing?

[redigere]

Naminé. What's yours?

[redigere]

I think he's been trying.

But I also think I keep misunderstanding him when he does.

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[redigere]

[Naminé takes a good half hour to respond to this one.]

We share that difficult past, though...am I guilty of the same if the things I did to him back then are making him feel bad now? I want to know if I'm wrong too.

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[redigere]

I want to tell him I'm not trying to push him away like he thinks I am. And that if I'm doing it unintentionally, then I want to try and fix it, but I don't want him to leave while I'm trying.

[redigere]

I'll try.

But if he doesn't want to see me, then what should I do?

[redigere]

I think I understand what you mean.

[Sora and Riku's friendship is the one she looks to as the ultimate example of mutual respect, sacrifice, and redemption, and she knows that Riku still has his hang ups about the things he's done even if he and Sora are fine now.

She wants to believe she can reach out to Kagami in the same way Sora did to Riku, but she doesn't have his remarkable capacity for optimism.]

Thank you for writing to me. You've given me a lot to think about.

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[redigere]

Which will only push him away more...I see.

You're right. I'll give him his space. I was so sure I could fix things between us right away. Or at least make things better. But I guess it's naive to think it's that easy.

[oceanthief]

People don't realize that forgiveness doesn't just magically put people back together again. It's better to know now instead of trying to push too hard and breaking everything later.

[it wasn't anything worth thanks, Lapis thinks. it was just something that she'd learned from her own experiences; things change, and you'd be a fool to expect them to fit in the same old places again.]

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[redigere]

I'm worried that leaving things alone will give him more time to isolate himself and make things worse. But everyone's saying that I should wait, so...

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[sleight_of_hand]

[ Adachi paused at that, a hollow feeling worming it's way into his chest. Geeze... it took him two years, but he finally understood why that brat went after him in the TV on his own. Damn, he was such an idiot. ]

Don't worry; he'll come around. Eventually.

[redigere]

[She broke him once already so yes, she wants to avoid doing that again at all costs. Literally or figuratively, or both.]

Right. I guess I'll just...give him time, then.

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[redigere]

I hope so.

Thank you for talking with me, Adachi.

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[renamaer]

If he refuses to listen to what you're saying, then that's probably still the best thing you can do for the moment.

[She can understand the instinct, and her own experience had borne that out, but she'd eventually had the sense knocked into her. No matter his intentions, if Kagami knew how much his actions were hurting Naminé... She hopes he feels bad about it later.]

As for the self-defense... do you want to learn to fight just with hand-to-hand, or with a weapon?

[redigere]

He's my friend. And he's been through so much. I hurt him badly before, and I don't want to do it again. I can't give up on him.

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[redigere]

[It's barely perceptible, but she finally nods, just the tiniest bit.]

Okay. I'll try. [She squeezes her hands into tiny, anxious fists. Trying to convince herself.] We'll get through this somehow.

[redigere]

That's good.

How is he?

[redigere]

As long as I can stand it? What do you mean?

[Well, she knows what Kanaya is implying but...aren't friendships supposed to last through thick and thin?]